a week ago I took part in a lively tele-seminar that was presented by
a panel of renowned Internet successes. These four are known for their
lucrative on-line businesses, their sincerity, honesty, integrity and
obvious desire to help others succeed. Not only was the information shared
helpful and thought provoking, but it was down-to-earth and doable.
of the panelists made a statement that inspired me to think about
and write this article, along with using the theme of "Influence"
for an upcoming e-newsletter, Portfolio Potpourri. Alexandria Brown,
Queen, said that she wasn't sure where she heard it but to paraphrase,
"As people, we are the average of those people we hang around with."
This started me thinking about those who have and still are influencing
me, my life and my business. It also made me think of other influences
- both good and bad - that have directed my journey. In this article,
I share thoughts, experiences, ideas and questions that will help you
on your successful journey as a free agent, independent professional and
influences - the good, the bad and the ugly - must be addressed. You
and I both know people who dwell on the past. They talk about how their
parents messed them up; their friends as they grew up were a "terrible"
influence; they had poor teachers, few or no privileges and a continual
struggle for everything they wanted or needed. I submit to you that no
matter how good or bad our pasts were, we can find nuggets of influence
that will still prove to be positive strengths and helps today. The success
stories abound about those who grew up in poverty and are now millionaires,
those who were raised by illiterate parents and today have their PhDs,
and those who have faced incredible challenges health wise, yet keep on
plugging along with determination.
know by now how I value making lists. Look way back and make
a list of all of the hard times, obstacles and challenges in your past.
Next to each, write how these unsavory experiences influenced you for
the better. Usually, it is the obstacles and failures that we face that
spur us on to greatness. When you finish this exercise, you will be surprised
by how much better those past times will appear to be. Now, for the fun
Make a list of all of the good influences you enjoyed in the past.
Here are some of the questions to answer:
some of the lessons my parent(s) taught me that have helped over the
made the most impact on my future? How and why?
the friends that I still think of with love and how did they affect
my life and influence me?
and movies did I love as a child? Why?
and sports did I pursue and what did I learn from participating?
I want to be when "I grew up?" Do I still have that goal,
or am I already living it? Should I be?
the very best and happiest memories from my childhood? Why?
By now, you
should be re-evaluating the past influences in your life and the ways
you can make them work to your advantage today. What have you learned
that you can use to enliven your business and bolster your success?
examine present and recently past influences:
people we know, work and play with. Yes, I agree with Alexandria
that we are heavily influenced by the people we let into our lives.
If we hang out with negative, critical, complaining people, we can easily
lose our enthusiasm and drive. If we join groups and make friends with
those we want to emulate, we will be on our way. It is just like tennis
and chess. The way one gets better is to play with someone who is better
than we are. I am not suggesting that you drop the friends you have
now, but I am suggesting that you join groups of winners, network with
people who are known as successes and volunteer for worthy causes.
learning with books, tapes and magazines. It is astonishing to find
out how few people read a book after graduation. I am sure that none
of you reading this article would fall into that category - or you wouldn't
be here on my site. However, I must mention the wonderful scope of topics
available today in book form, the plethora of tapes that inform and
motivate - I listen and re-listen to tapes by Brian Tracy, Jim Rohn,
Earl Nightingale and am always influenced to take a new action step
toward success. Visit your public library. It offers a wealth of influence.
And, yes, there are almost too many magazines to read. I have found
that the best way to benefit from the great information is to scan and
then only read those articles that pertain to some part of my business
or life. No matter what your specialty is, there are magazines that
address your problems and situations.
activity and a focus on health. One of the strongest influences
on my well-being, business acumen, and energy level is daily exercise
and sensible nutrition. Studies have shown that there are so many side
benefits from regular exercise and proper eating that one could easily
fill a wall with post-it notes listing them. By pushing oxygen to the
heart and brain, we keep both healthy and smart. If you are having a
difficult time getting started, I suggest finding a buddy to go to the
gym with you or work out with you. In the fitness classes I teach, the
people who participate have become friends and they cheer each other
on - another positive influence.
ask you, what are the influences in your freelance living? Are they
helping or hindering your progress? What new and better influences can
you and will you embrace in the future? What bad influences and toxic
companions are presently draining you of your energy and passion for living?
It is time to make another list, but on this one add an action step and
a new influence to replace each of the bad ones.
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